Why keep a Gratitude Journal at all? (This is the saaaaaame intro for every Gratitude Journal entry. It’s here for the newbies to the journey.)
I try to start everyday with a Grateful heart. *duck face* Potna, I ain’t lying. You can check my IG accounts Queen/King. I get a lil raunchy on the Multiple_Sclerosis_Outlaw but I’m calmer, gentle with allthingsonelove. On both, I start my day sharing Gratitudes, stories of Gratitude and anything related to being Grateful. I’m dead ass serious about my Gratitudes because it keeps me present and accountable for my own energy. I recognize and appreciate the actions, words and energy of others intending me good. By starting my day with Gratitude, I have less MS pain, MS symptoms and MS depression because I’m actively pushing my thoughts towards a positive direction of Gratitude. My relationships with others are stronger because my Grateful ass notices what others do for me, to me, WITH me. *bows* I could go on and on and on and on about the benefits of being purposefully grateful buuuuuut… *whispers* Pssst, you know I wrote about it…
link to How I Know Gratitude Works!
Why I chose THIS to start my day…
Yoo. This is the biggest reason I pulled my kids from public school; my faith & trust in US has outgrown my fears. When I say US, I mean MY team, unit, squad, family moving in one direction. I believe WE can solve anything. All these Gratitudes for having a Queen by my side, busting her pretty ass to learn and prepare meals that coincide with MY wellness? *sniff* I know DAMN well she can manage and GROW my kids’ education and maturity. Dem kids were sooooo NOT on board with leaving public school, not seeing friends, what-about-when-covid-over, etc. I’m SEEING them excited about lessons; the growth is THERE! It’s like a seed and I’m literally WATCHING them grow, in real time, it’s CRAZY fun and it’s only been 2 weeks! They’re communicating even MORE with those friends through individual laptops. (They’ve even gotten trouble for “messaging with friends during learning times. 🙄 I’ma keep it 💯.) There are adjustments that we’re ALL making but we’re getting along and loving each other. As PARENTS, the Queen and I are well aware, ever-present to the fact that this entire decision, lifestyle is a process. The best thing about a process? YOU can make it BETTER by tweaking and remixing until YOU are good with it.
3.) Bigger emphasis on routine & habits – When the kids were in public school, that 40 or so hours away left quite a big mess. Monday – Friday, school came first and that meant ALL the crap with catching a bus, needing snacks, doing homework, but-I-can’t-because-I-have-homework, blah blah blah came FIRST too. That left little time for chores, learning basic life-at-home-as-a-regular-person skills. *suddenly stands tall and proud* I am a parent and… My. Kids. CLEAN. 😑😉😁😂🤣 My kids have time to read a book, wash dishes, scrub the ring in their bathtub, *whoo saah* Respect, Accountability, Trust and Initiative are elements of their EVERYDAY life and existence now because the kids are schooling at the crib, under the supervision of the Queen, who has a direct influence on the subject material, required to score B’s on quizzes after every lesson BEFORE “leaving class” and then BOOM… Here MY ass come through, every 2-3hrs with props to kids, redirecting others and drawing attention to those 4 elements of Respect, Accountability, Trust and Initiative. 🤔🤓
2.) Conversations are about hustling & giving – This goes with the new debit cards for kids we rolled out last week. Standard, practical parents tie allowance to chores. WE are trying to ELEVATE that practice. We’ve always rewarded our kids for meeting high, academic expectations. (We never really knew what was going on at school UNTIL there was a problem.) Now, with the academics under OUR influence, it’s much easier to reward them. They’ve responded with greater efforts, EVEN on Math. 🙌🏾 The kids are openly talking with each other on book reports, paragraphs, “what do I write here?”, “think I’ll earn extra”? DAWG. I don’t care if it’s external motivation, I see a light, hustle in my kids and I want to explore it, use it, help THEM see it. They’re on Amazon saving gift ideas for OTHER family members and it’s the coolest thing. PLUS, it’s THEIR money so I ain’t gotta spend extra. 🤜🏾🤛🏾
1.) Quality time is now an immediate option – Come on. Get a little closer. *whispers* I have Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis so I’m hyper aware of the “clock” over my head. *waves NO with hands* Chill out homie because I’m dealing facts. I don’t have time to gamble and waste sending my kids anywhere sick as I am. I’m happy, full life, passion, purpose, all that good jazz, energy, mindset. Sick as I am? I’m using ALL of it NOW. To use it, I gotta see you, touch you, talk to you. I need QUALITY time because quantity of time isn’t an option. Middle of the day, MS kicking me hard, I can watch movies and shit with my kids. Late Tuesday night, making cookies and treats for Wednesday? Cracking jokes on each for WHATEVER happened during the day TOGETHER? *nodding head like a 90s Dre beat playing* Sign me up. Look man, I OVERstand that my health is an issue, BIG concern, PRIORITY. When your health is an issue, time is of the essence and I want as MUCH time with my Queen, influencing my kids, impacting my community and LEADING my freaking Tribe as MUCH as fucking possible because I believe my time is WORTH it. 😋✊🏾🙌🏾
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